An Update

I set out with the intent of posting weekly to this blog but didn't anticipate all that would come along with the news we got a few months ago...

We're having a baby!!!

A week after my last post, I found out we're expecting a precious little addition to our world. And almost a week exactly after that I found myself drowning in the whirlwind that is first trimester. I never intended to publicize this aspect of my life and that's really not what I'll be doing. However, I have really felt the Lord drawing me closer to Him through each day of this pregnancy experience. And what an experience it has already been. It is my hope that I will be able to continue with this blog and to share the things that God has been speaking to me about. Becoming pregnant has been a time for me that has truly been marked by God's grace and I look forward to sharing more about that. There are a few other things I've had on my heart over the last two months but I just haven't had the physical strength to pull myself together long enough to share. But lately there have been days like today when I don't feel like dying and feel what I vaguely remember knowing to be "hunger" and it will be these days that I will embrace and use as an opportunity to collect my thoughts and share them with you.

In the mean time, a big thanks to those who have prayed, congratulated, texted or brought crackers and lemonade (my new love language)... it takes a village and we're so blessed to have you as a part of ours.

Girl's Night Out and In

Two weeks ago I featured Elizabeth's take on some great date night ideas. I think it's important to make time for all of your relationships so today I wanted to share with you some highlights from a recent weekend get together with my gal pal Hannah.

We started our time off with a Paint Nite. For those of you who are unfamiliar, a paint nite is hosted at a local bar/pub/restaurant and a local artist teaches you how to paint a certain picture. The canvas, paint and supplies are all provided in the cost. You book in advance and there are always coupon codes to take advantage of. They're usually $45 but with a code we knocked it down to $33 per person. Hannah and I have done a few of these now and they're such a blast. It's a great opportunity to try something you may have never done. If you're nervous you'll look silly, I assure you a glass of wine and a quick glance in any direction will always help! Here's a picture of my finished product "Under the Red Tree" -

We headed back home for an amazing steak dinner. (Thanks for cooking, Andy!) Asparagus, mushrooms, onions and potatoes came together as the perfect sides. It was too yummy to wait for a photo so you'll just have to imagine!

While we waited for the steaks to cook, we became acutely aware of the lack of libations we had on hand. (It was a Sunday night after 6pm... fail.) It was our time off together and we wanted a treat! We opted for an easy go to - sangria. The beauty of sangria is that you can take it in so many different directions. Starting with a sweeter wine, we decided to add a little fizz with some Perrier, a little flavour with ginger ale and a little colour with lemon slices. If I'm honest, we were too busy enjoying it to take a photo. Ooops! If you've got more time and alcohol on your hands, take a look at these yummy sangria options!

All good girl nights feature a movie. After the standard indecisive scroll time on Netflix had run out, we opted for an all time fav - Bridesmaids. We laughed along and quoted way too much.

This morning we woke up to coffee and endless amounts of Olympic coverage. It was the perfect slow start to our morning. Our tummies started rumbling and we knew it was time for the best part - PANCAKES. I recently found a great recipe and figured out how to incorporate coconut oil because well... who doesn't love coconut oil? Here's what you'll need:

1.5 cups of all purpose flour

3.5 teaspoons of baking powder

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

1 egg

1.25 cups of milk

3 tablespoons of melted coconut oil

Step 1: Sift together the dry ingredients

Step 2: Add the egg

Step 3: Melt the oil

(Do you really need a picture of that?)

Step 4: Add oil, vanilla and milk to dry ingredients.

Step 5: Pour 1/4 cup of batter at a time onto a hot greased skillet or non stick pan.

Step 6: Enjoy! We topped ours with Nutella and strawberries because well... Nutella and strawberries!

We sat down to enjoy some more Olympic events and started talking about the many uses for coconut oil. With a twinkle in our eye and Pinterest search in hand we headed back into the kitchen for an experiment. Thanks to a simple recipe we found, we combined 1 tablespoon of coconut oil and 1 tablespoon of coffee grounds for a delicious smelling DIY face scrub.

We both have sensitive skin but found the grounds to be just the right size to exfoliate our skin without being too rough. We washed it off after about 15 minutes (be careful, that's the messy part!). The coconut oil left our skin feeling smooth and smelling good BUT we found that after an hour or so, the coconut oil had been absorbed and left a weird smell (possibly from the coffee as well). Our overall recommendation is to try making the mask but consider putting a few dabs of scented moisturizer on later on if you don't want the "after smell".

We had a great time hanging out and catching up this weekend. It's so important to make time for friendships. Andrew and I both have other friends and we enjoy spending time with them. I think it's important to encourage your spouse in their other friendships just like it is to encourage and support their hobbies - remember last week's post? Andrew was a big help, driving us around and cooking for us - we really appreciated that!

Here's to messy paint nites, anything with Nutella and trying new things with old friends. Is there anything better? Naaaaaaahhhhrrrr! (sorry, inside joke...)

How About You - What are your favourite girl's night activities? Who can you call up this week for a sushi date or movie night?

I'm Married to a Pokémon Player

There are two types of people in the world - people who play Pokémon Go and people who do not. Regardless of which camp you sit in, you probably have your reasons. To be honest, I had only started hearing murmurings of it on Facebook and Instagram when it became available for play in Canada. That is when my husband's childhood dream of catching Pokémon in real life became a reality. That is also when I had a choice to make - to play or not to play.

Let me first say this - I'm totally on board with the idea that you and your spouse should have separate interests. You are your own person (at least I think you should be) before you meet your spouse and so it's only natural that you continue on in those hobbies and interests. Sometimes the stars align and the things you love to do line up with the interests of your spouse. Sometimes they couldn't be more opposite and could probably qualify as torture to the other person. In any case, shared and solo interests are a healthy part of a relationship.

So what about Pokémon? Well here's the thing - within the first day of Andrew (and his brother, brother's girlfriend and brother in law) playing the game, I caught myself rolling my eyes and thinking (thankfully only to myself), "Why do you even play that stupid game?" But I didn't say that. Slow to speak - nailed it. Instead, I decided to try looking at it in an entirely different light. Rather than asking him why he was playing a dumb game on his phone, I asked him, "So... how do you catch them?" He was a bit surprised by my interest but like most husband's do when their wife shows interest in their weird hobbies, he played it cool and gave me a basic explanation.

A few nights later as we got ready for bed he mentioned that there were a bunch of Pokémon in the park behind our house. He went into the bathroom and when he came back he found me in jeans and a hoodie with phone in hand, "Cmon, let's go get them".

Is this blog about playing Pokémon Go? No. It's about looking at your spouse's hobbies and interests in a different light. Instead of being annoyed at the ways they are different from you, ask them to teach you or at the very least ask them about why it's so important to them. I don't know if I'll ever convince Andrew to come to a Paint Nite with me. But the look on his face when I told him I had just caught a Bulbasaur in the living room totally makes up for it.

"Each of you should look not only to your own interests but also to the interests of others." Philippians 2:4

How About You - Do you play Pokémon Go with your spouse? Is there a hobby of theirs that you could take an interest in rather than resisting it? How can you encourage your spouse in their individual interests this week?

Guest Post - Date Night on a Budget

Our guest post this week comes from Elizabeth Syptak who is currently tackling her first year of marriage and motherhood. Enjoy!

One of the most common pieces of marriage advice I have been given has been in relation to the importance of taking time for date nights. Regular time spent with your spouse (or fiancé or sigO [significant other] as my family calls them) is so important to maintaining a healthy relationship. However, this healthy time together can sometimes be overshadowed by the thought of spending (too much) money!

Before we get started, consider these two foundational principles of a date night:

FIRST - Planning ahead. The most expensive dates can often be the “spur of the moment” dates. If you plan ahead you can keep an eye out for deals, coupons or free events. There is nothing wrong with using a BOGO on a date (maybe not the first date though). If it suits you, keep an eye on your local community events calendar. Outdoor festivals or activities are a great way to get out of the house and see something new!

SECOND - Leaving your phone at home... or in the car or in your purse or in your pocket. Be with the one you are with. Want to take a picture? Great! But #latergram that thing because there is no greater gift you can give your loved ones than your TIME.

If the thought of cost effective courtship resonates with you, here a few ideas for how to go for a date without going for broke.

Go For a Walk. When was the last time you actually did this? (If PokémonGo just came to mind, tune in to next week's blog!) Find yourself a walking path, a pretty neighbourhood or a nearby park. You can always back a few homemade snacks (keep it simple with water and granola bars) or plan to end up near your favourite ice cream stop.  

Go For Coffee/Dessert. Time to check out that cute little café you've had your eye on. Order something you've never tried before or ask the employee to make you their favourite drink. If reading is your thing, bring along your favourite book.

Make Dinner. 9/10 times it will cost less if you make it yourself than if you dine out. If you're feeling adventurous, pick a Pinterest recipe and then work together to make the meal. If it turns out terribly, laugh it off and order a pizza.

Cheap Tuesday Movies. This a great alternative for date night on a budget. Buy your tickets online so you can skip the long lines. And remember, you're saving on the movie so you can feel a little less guilty for spending $8 on popcorn.

Throw Something. Find a Frisbee, football, basketball, baseball or whatever you are physically coordinated enough to exchange with someone in a sport context and go do it! An hour spent whipping a Frisbee around feels so much better than watching another episode of Whatever Show You're Binging On Lately. Take advantage of the good weather and your good health and go have fun!

And there you have it - five easy, relatively inexpensive date night ideas. For those of you with kids, consider turning one of those into a family activity. Stay tuned for a family fun bucket list in the weeks to come!

How About You - Do you have a cheap budget-friendly date night suggestion? Post it in the comments below!